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How to Maintain Contacts with Other People Using a Personal CRM (Film, 9 Minutes)

In his latest video, Jeff Su emphasizes the importance of nurturing relationships in both personal and professional lives, especially amid the busy lives we lead. He discusses a personal Relationship Management System (CRM) that he has created on Notion. After experiencing issues with managing contacts, Jeff realized that maintaining meaningful friendships shouldn’t require excessive effort. He has developed a template that can assist those wishing to effectively track important details about their loved ones and professional connections. It’s worth highlighting that Jeff has been successfully using this system for the past six months, and a link to his template is provided in the video description.

The first thing Jeff explains is the definition of a personal CRM. This tool enables users to capture vital information about friends, family, and their professional network, preventing the loss of connections. Examples of the benefits of using such a system are compelling—whether it’s remembering past conversations or receiving unexpected birthday wishes. Jeff emphasizes that a good CRM should remind users to stay in touch while also being easy to update.

Jeff’s template contains basic fields such as name, relationship, birthday, industry, and location. There are also VIP contacts for whom additional information can be inputted. The core concept is strategically including information only for the most important individuals, which reduces friction when using the CRM. Furthermore, Jeff reassures that labeling someone as a VIP does not diminish their importance; it’s merely a method to organize contacts.

Jeff shares straightforward tips for maintaining relationships, such as tracking birthdays and organizing meetups. His process of gathering information is detailed and includes recording dates in multiple places, which proves very effective. Besides, he advocates regular maintenance of the CRM every two weeks to review new connections. This system provides better organization of relationships and helps in keeping them at the right level, something crucial in today's world.

At the end of the video, Jeff draws attention to the statistics, indicating that his material has garnered significant interest. At the time of writing this article, the video has accumulated 93,220 views and 2,456 likes. This suggests that viewers appreciate his advice on relationship management and can successfully implement a personal CRM. His experiences and insights can undoubtedly help others cultivate important relationships and manage their time effectively in both professional and personal realms.

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  • 00:00 Introduction about the importance of meaningful relationships.
  • 00:05 Personal experiences with managing contacts.
  • 00:11 Struggles of inputting detailed information for contacts.
  • 00:27 Introduction of a personal CRM template created on Notion.
  • 00:36 Acknowledgment of Notion's sponsorship.
  • 00:40 Explanation of what a personal CRM is.
  • 00:57 Benefits of using a personal CRM.
  • 01:13 Criteria for a good personal CRM.
  • 01:30 Overview of the basic columns in the CRM template.
  • 02:05 Concept of strategic information about contacts.
  • 02:51 Importance of remembering birthdays of contacts.
  • 03:33 Explanation of relationship tags for contacts.
  • 04:27 Discussion on industry and location properties.
  • 04:43 Creating database views based on objectives.
  • 05:09 Details on VIP properties within the CRM.
  • 07:08 How to maintain the personal CRM effectively.
  • 07:26 Understanding the importance of timely updates.
  • 08:16 Advantages of using Notion across various platforms.
  • 08:28 Conclusion and invitation to explore more Notion content.

Transcription

When life gets busy, we need to be reminded to enjoy our most meaningful relationships. Sounds good, doesn't work. If you're anything like me, at some point in your life, you've tried to manage your contacts. And after spending 15 minutes inputting information like email, phone number, LinkedIn, company, role, name of the children, name of the dog, cat, alligator for just one person, you realize that absolutely no amount of friendship is worth this effort. Luckily for you, after a lot of trial and error, I'm happy to share a personal CRM template I've built on Notion and have been successfully maintaining for the past six months. You lucky ducks, you. Huge thanks to Notion for sponsoring this video. Let's get started. Okay, so right off the bat, a personal CRM is a personal relationship management system that helps you keep track of the important details about your close friends, family, and professional network so you don't lose touch with them. I can go on and on about the benefits of having a personal CRM, but just think back to the last time someone you haven't seen in a while recalled what you two talked about in a previous conversation. Or someone you didn't expect wished you a happy birthday, even when it's not shown on Facebook. You're probably surprised, a little bit creeped out, but overall felt pretty good. In my experience, a good personal CRM needs to have two things. First, it has to be able to remind you to keep in contact with the people you care about. And second, it has to be easy to update and maintain. And this is where my template comes in. Feel free to make a copy by clicking the link down in the description and following along. Diving right into it. You might see in this snapshot view, I only have six very basic columns. Name, relationship, birthday, industry, location, and whether or not they're a VIP. But if I expand the view to include all columns, you'll see additional properties for those people who are checked as VIP and they have their own individual Notion pages. And therein lies the core concept of this template. By being strategic about the people you include additional information for, you drastically decrease the friction of using this personal CRM. Now, before anyone's feelings get hurt, non-VIP doesn't automatically mean not important. For people you already keep up with on a regular basis, for example, close friends and family members, you don't need to be reminded to catch up with them. By the way, if you're not using Notion yet, click the link down below to sign up for free. I've been using Notion for ages now, way before they reached out for a sponsorship. I literally have like playlists dedicated to my Notion workflows. So I highly recommend checking out this tool. Back to the template. You can understand the properties towards the left-hand side are must-have information for all my contacts. And the ones to the right are VIP specific. And at any given point, I usually have five or fewer VIPs to keep things manageable. Starting with the must-have information. I always note down the birthdays of my contacts whenever possible. Because knowing and following up on this one piece of information can really bring two people closer together. This is gonna sound silly, but I have a workflow for noting down someone's birthday. The second I find out what day it is, I capture it on my Todoist app. Then I'll go into my Notion and note down the next instance of that day and select a reminder for the day of the event. Then I'll go to my Google Calendar and input a recurring annual event to remind myself to wish them a happy birthday. I do both because right now Notion currently does not have a recurring date feature, but it's good to have all the birthdays in a centralized location. Moving over to the relationships property. I personally have six tags here. Friends, family, colleagues, school, high school and college, network, and services. Services being like renovation or moving companies. What's important to note here is that these tags are not mutually exclusive. Someone can be both my friend and colleague, or my friend and part of my professional network. And this is where your own personal definition comes in. For example, for the people I've tagged as friend are those who I feel comfortable grabbing a drink with. For the network tag, it would be for professional contacts I may want to reach out to at some point in the future. For example, a colleague who left for a company I may want to join down the line. And here's my first pro tip. Be honest with yourself, right? This personal CRM is for you. No one else is going to see this. So give yourself permission to not tag that annoying teammate as a friend. The industry and location properties are pretty self-explanatory. I purposely chose industry instead of company because people might be changing companies all the time, every two to three years, but people rarely jump into entirely new industry. And when you network, starting with people in your target industry is usually good enough. Once all these must-have properties are filled out, simply create a few database views around your objectives. For example, for colleagues, I sometimes organize happy hours at work and I want to make sure I'm not forgetting anyone. Pro tip here, to keep things clean, you might want to toggle off some of the properties you don't need to see for that view. And for sort, I usually sort by birthday ascending so I know whose birthday is coming up next. Now onto the VIP properties. There are a total of four extra things you need to input for VIPs. First is the last contacted date. Whether you caught up with them in person or sent them a short email, record the exact date that happened. And for this view, I like to actually sort by last contacted date ascending. The status column is a formula I stole from the Notion team's CRM template. And it basically just says, if a time between today and the last time you contacted them is more than three months, return the words, hit them up. Otherwise, you're good. Obviously, you can customize this by changing the number of months here and the words I return if the conditions are met. And the last update property here is just a one sentence summary of what you two discussed the last time you talked. The fourth VIP specific action is to fill out additional information on their respective pages. I've broken this down to three sections, background, content information, and notes. For background, this is very self-explanatory. Not going to go over this. For content information, the one thing I like to mention here is that since we all use so many different messaging apps nowadays, you might want to remind yourself what's the main app you're using with that person since he or she may be more responsive on a particular platform. For notes, you have two options. You can either create an empty Notion page every time you talk and write down the highlights there, or you can just simply input bullet points under a date like this. I've actually already created this template within this database. So all you need to do is to simply add a new person for each VIP. Speaking of VIPs, there is no strict definition and that's the beauty of it. In short, these are the people you want to intentionally keep up with on a regular basis. These could be family friends you don't see often, mentors who left your team or a company, your current manager or director, and college friends who ended up in fields completely different from yours. Onto the most important part of this video, how to maintain this personal CRM so you actually use it to build meaningful relationships. There are two types of maintenance that I do, as needed and scheduled. Birthdays fall under as needed because you should add it to this Notion template and Google Calendar as soon as you find out, right? Like, don't wait. Similarly, for planned meetings like one-on-one networking calls or coffee chats, you should always take five minutes afterwards to immediately jot down the highlights so you don't forget. For scheduled maintenance, I set aside 30 minutes every two weeks and scroll through my messaging and social media apps to remind myself who I've met. If there was someone worthy, I would add them to my personal CRM and fill in the must-have columns. Within this 30-minute timeframe, you also want to go into your VIP view and schedule catch-ups as needed. Again, don't overwhelm yourself. Keep the number of VIPs within a manageable range. Take out or add in VIPs depending on what you want to achieve at that point in time. Also, remember, a quick thoughtful email or message counts as contact. It doesn't necessarily have to be a verbal chat. One last benefit of this Notion template or Notion in general is that it's available across all platforms and not just tied to any one operating system, a limitation that perhaps is faced by Google or Apple contacts. If you enjoyed this video, you might like my Notion playlist as well. See you all next week. In the meantime, have a great one.